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Put the therapy, podcasts, and techniques aside
and enter into the realm of
embodied intimacy practice...
How do you create deep and sustain sacred intimacy,
sexual polarity, and
devotional love while living a full life full of demands?
Whether you are calling in a partner,
longing to deepen your current relationship,
yearning for a change,
or longing to be amongst other devoted practitioners:
making the commitment to GO DEEP in practice
will create a potent alchemy and transform the way you meet
relationships for the rest of your life.
What we teach is not about doing more,
or figuring things out,
its a path of intimacy through the body,
a path of using the hard times as fuel,
and learning how to create the erotic charge
and deep love you desire.
WOMEN WHO:
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Want to embody the full range of their expression — tenderness, power, desire, ache — not to perform, but to create more aliveness, polarity, and connection in the space.
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Are ready to let the armor soften, to feel the truth in the body rather than strategizing from the mind.
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Want to stay connected to sensuality and the current of love even in the midst of a full, complex life — whether partnered, calling in love, or meeting their partner anew.
MEN WHO:
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Want to remain grounded and conscious while the intensity of relationship moves through the space — not disappearing, numbing, or fantasizing about escape.
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Recognize that resistance to intimacy is a threshold, and that entering the heat of love can clarify purpose, presence, and direction more powerfully than solitude ever could.
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Have built outer success, and now feel called to cultivate inner depth, heart intelligence, and attunement — the very qualities that create real trust and devotion.
COUPLES WHO:
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Want to reorient the relationship toward the living spark that first drew you together, rather than the momentum of tasks, parenting, logistics, and obligation.
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Understand that friction is unavoidable, and are ready to turn toward rupture as a doorway into truth, intimacy, and maturation, rather than a signal to retreat or defend.
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Want to source erotic energy from within — cultivating aliveness as a personal practice and bringing that energy into shared intimacy with intention and skill.
This Program is for...
Program Details
CO-ED THURSDAY WORKSHOPS:
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Held twice monthly on Thursdays- These will consist of exercises and practices you will do solo or with a partner that you can return to again and again.
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Live with Alexandra & Eli — 2 hours
Call Times:
10 AM PST / 1 PM EST / 7 PM CET
MONTHLY MEN'S &
WOMEN'S SESSIONS:
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Held during the second and fourth week of each month, 90 minute sessions.
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Separate sessions for men and women
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Women: 2nd Thursday of the month
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Men: 4th Thursday of the month
Call Times:
10 AM PST / 1 PM EST / 7 PM CET
PLUS:
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Participants are paired with practice partners via zoom (unless joining as a couple).
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Access to recorded practices and teachings.
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17 hours of interactive teaching LIVE plus Q & A with Alexandra and Eli plus recordings you can return to and practice with on your own.
“Alchemy of Love has been the most beautiful and transformative container for both me and my partner. I feel that we now know ourselves and each other on a much deeper level —showing up with greater awareness, understanding each other's patterns and edges with newfound compassion. Above all, these three months have awakened a profound devotion to love, both within myself and our relationship. Eli and Alexandra hold an exquisite container and balance of energies, embodying a deep, playful, and fully alive partnership that continues to inspire.”
— STIJN HOSMAN, past AOL Participant
Join teachers, devoted partners,
and parents, ELI and ALEXANDRA
in a rich and dynamic training to
call in love from your deepest being ,
deepen your relationship,
and learn to cultivate erotic polarity.
Come solo or with a partner.
All are welcome.
IN ALCHEMY OF LOVE YOU WILL...
EMBODIED INTIMACY PRACTICE
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You remain open under intensity — not collapsing, not hardening — simply here, available, real.
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Your body becomes a place of presence, so intimacy is felt through breath, posture, touch, and gaze — not just words.
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Your erotic aliveness travels with you, into the kitchen, the car, the conversation — not just the bedroom.
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Your presence has weight and impact — you are felt before you speak, and that alone creates intimacy and heat.
TURNING CONFLICT INTO EROTIC SPARK
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The heat of conflict becomes aliveness, not shutdown — energy you feel rather than avoid.
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Emotional charge turns into attraction — the spark returns because neither of you leaves yourselves.
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You stay open when activated, which creates intimacy that is electric, not sentimental.
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Repair becomes a return to desire, where you meet again with more presence, more clarity, and more spark.
CREATING +
SUSTAINING SEXUAL POLARITY
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You stop collapsing into neutrality and instead meet one another from the depth of your chosen energetic shape — which restores desire.
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Your love moves through the body, not just the mind — touch, breath, gaze, and tone become transmission, not negotiation.
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The relationship becomes a practice of awakening — not a place to hide, manage, or numb, but a crucible where your fullest expression is called forward.
"My heart wants to express how wonderful these sessions have been for it, for me, for us. I feel held in skillful facilitation in ways I haven't for many years...at least not in work that is embodied. The program and the two of you as space holders and magic crafters, have far exceeded my expectations. I wasn't even aware of how parched I've been, thirsting for guidance into these areas of my soul and body again. And....there's what's being invited in our relationship. Ahhhh so juicy! Brent and I met 31 years ago. Now, here we are with grown children, a grandbaby, years of life between us...AND this program is unlocking newness, depth, and love we had not yet opened. What a divine gift to keep unwrapping! Thank you. The gratitude I feel is bone deep."
— BRITTA BUSHNELL, Author / Mentor / Speaker
Monthly
BREAKDOWN
January
- Co-Ed Thursdays:
Jan 8, Jan 22
- Women’s Session:
Jan 15
- Men’s Session:
Jan 29
February
- Co-Ed Thursdays:
Feb 5, Feb 19
- Women’s Session:
Feb 10 (Tuesday)
- Men’s Session:
Feb 26
March + April
- Co-Ed Thursdays:
March 5, March 19
- Women’s Session:
March 12
- Men’s Session:
March 26
This is your one wild life as YOU- how do you want to bring your heart and soul to it?
Whether you are single, or in relationship, come onto a journey to deepen: to meet your edges in loving and relationship, transform shadows into art, and allow your desire for deeper, wilder, truer sex and intimacy to come to fruition.
“The AOL program was an incredibly special experience that my husband and I will always cherish. Investing in our relationship felt like a luxury at first, like something fun to do. And while, yes, the program was loads of fun — we were both blown away by just how powerful the tools, practices and teachings that Alexandra and Eli offered are. The insights, experiences and openings in our relationship that this course sparked for us bring me to tears to think about. It was everything we didn’t know we needed — and our relationship feels buoyed in a beautiful new way. From the bottom of my heart, thank you both for sharing your wisdom with us.”
— ALCHEMY OF LOVE COUPLE
In a sea of people offering teachings around relationship at this time we want to be clear with you as to who we are and what perspective we offer...
We are parents, longtime spiritual and embodiment practitioners, artists, explorers, and lovers.
We are fiercely committed to loving in a way we didn't see modeled, and we are choosing to love and do relationship as our deepest most fierce spiritual practice and life's work.
We have a practice of living into our soul work together: transforming our patterns, and enjoying deep heart liberation through practice.
Our relationship is a sacred dojo, a cauldron, a place for accepting what is, as much as courageously transforming what is ready to shift. We are inviting you to create this space in your own life, turning up your own heat, and watching things transform.
In the same way that you would practice to become exceptional in any art, relationship is a place where we study, train, and become masterful at the art of intimacy. This starts with your own personal practice, self realization, and the sensitivity of how you impact another.
In the practice of sacred relationship, some days it is epic erotic fails and some days blissful highs- we practice showing up and opening to it all.
This practice is the opposite of what society, history, and Hollywood have guided us into. Or what social media perpetuates with flattened, glossy images of what "polarity" and "sacred intimacy" look like...
This path is where you know yourself at depth, in the sacred mirror of another.
As the world feels more distracted and uncertain and pulling you in 100 directions, now is the time to cultivate relationship as a sanctuary and temple that deeply nourishes you and the wider community.
This is a coming home to a conscious love forged in the fires of something deep: mythological, archetypal, holy, raw, and timeless. Where you move past your edges and into the wide open unknown of depth and devotion. This is a remembrance in the chambers of your heart that you know to be true, otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this.
At a time when more and more hours are spent online away from the intimate touch of skin and the magic of gazing eye to eye, we are here to invite you into the mystery of this human experience, deepening your own personal practice and the power you have to LOVE OPEN AND AWAKE.
Alexandra and Eli
"I've never experienced anything like this. I still feel so tender and raw and open and so filled up with love after working with Alexandra."
"I feel exhausted and awake. I feel more myself than I ever have. And I feel fucking unstoppable. Thank you Eli."
JOIN US ON A 3 MONTH ADVENTURE IN BOLD LOVING, EMBODIED TRANSFORMATION, AND DIVING INTO SACRED INTIMACY IN WILD TIMES.
Alexandra is a bestselling author of two books with Sounds True who has worked with thousands of women to heal, transform, and open emotionally and sensually. Her work has been featured in Vogue, NY Times, and many other publications.
Alexandra brings practices of emotional expression, erotic embodiment and a dynamic background of study and practice in psychodrama, depth psychology, and sacred intimacy, and is IFS-informed and trauma-informed.
“I've been describing Eli and Alexandra as the 'embodiment of sexy wisdom' and I think this container was just that. I left each session feeling like my heart was wide open and on fire. For me, it was a deep exploration of all the love centers in the body and a compassionate wrestling with the masculine-feminine polarity. Finding myself at various points there left me in awe. And it helped me to locate where I want and prefer to be met by another on that polarity. It was also such a gift to witness other couples operating in sacred relationship - supporting my belief that the kind of love I long for does exist. Deepest gratitude to Alexandra and Eli for living that and letting us see into their way with it.”
— JANAE ESWALD, past AOL Participant
“Alexandra, the fiery woman who’s dousing gasoline on my own flames, the heart who has been tender and gentle with my own, the wise stoic teacher who calls out my bullshit, the powerful voice who has lead me in a journey to myself, the silly and funny woman who has made me laugh through tears. My soul has appreciated every ounce of medicine our time together has offered.”
Eli brings a rich practice of 20 years of experience teaching in the space of sacred intimacy, men's work, and spirituality. He brings awareness practices, qi gong, meditation, and the cultivation of presence to the container.
Eli has a long-standing mentorship with David Deida as teacher and collaborator beginning in 2004 until present, coupled with decades of practice of meditation, yoga, qigong, 6 years of mentorship and study in trauma healing and attachment.
"Working with Eli is like grasping onto a zipline into depth, an exploration of my inner nature as the hair on my head is blown about by the speed at which I move through my inner experience while the thrill of self-discovery ensues. "
“My heart burst open with profound revelation—again and again. Witnessing Alexandra and Eli lead us with their rich, conscious love was a truly transformative experience. Their expression wove a sacred container—one that nurtured the soul, invited deep healing, and radiated pure devotion. Within Alchemy of Love, I unearthed a newfound trust in myself, surrendering to raw vulnerability and alchemizing it into joyful, playful expansion. I discovered the profound power of being witnessed by men, dissolving old barriers, and awakening a deep longing for the intimacy my soul craves. This journey was not just moving—it was a radiant, life-affirming awakening, and for that, my cracked open heart overflows with gratitude.”
— LAURA MILLER, past AOL Participant
