Monday was my birthday and I have been in the b-day contemplation-gratitude-wow-awe-whoa I’m 37-what is this life-omg I feel so loved-kinda zone… and in this space of feeling so grateful and full, I would love to ask your support in something I care about…

If any of my writings, or my book, or my IG posts have touched your heart and if you have a few dollars to spare this week, I would LOVE if you are able to donate to any of these organizations which I am committed to supporting, as a special birthday gift to me.

These are organizations that I love, and have donated time and/or money to, and I would be honored for you to do so as well if you can – and make a b-day wish for me/you/this planet.

If you are like: “Hell no, I don’t have $5 for the Amazon right now!”

Well, I hear you and I love you still!  I totally get it.

And if you can do it, open the link, take 3 min, and do it as a prayer for us all!

AND!  If you haven’t written me a Bezos-site Amazon review for my BOOK, that would be an amazing b-day offering to me and my heart as a writer.  You can do that HERE.

BIG LOVE/THANKS/CARE FROM MY HEART.

1)  SEEDING SOVEREIGNTY:

Seeding Sovereignty is an Indigenous-led collective, working to radicalize and disrupt colonized spaces through land, body, and food sovereignty work, community building, and cultural preservation.  There are incredible people behind this organization!!  I HIGHLY rec donating if you are able!  DONATE HERE.

2)  THE LOVELAND FOUNDATION:

Loveland Foundation is committed to showing up for communities of color in unique and powerful ways, with a particular focus on Black women and girls. Their resources and initiatives are collaborative and they prioritize opportunity, access, validation, and healing.  This is Rachel Cargle’s foundation and I have really learned so much from her work.  I donate to them monthly!
DONATE TO SUPPORT THE THERAPY FUND HERE.

3)  AMAZON WATCH:

Amazon Watch focuses on protecting the rainforest and our climate by supporting Indigenous peoples.  If you’re someone who has had a transformation, change, and healing from anything from the Amazon, this is a great place to donate.  So much of our world comes from the rainforest, including air, products, and healing!!
FIND OUT MORE AND SUPPORT HERE.

4)  CORAZON DE VIDA:

Corazon de Vida provides life changing support for orphaned and abandoned children in Baja.  They are on a mission to end child abandonment by breaking the vicious cycles of poverty.  If you’ve ever felt lonely, or like you wanted to go home, please donate to support this orphanage in Mexico.  They’re really special, and they’re helping to provide a home to children who otherwise don’t have a place to call home.
DONATE HERE.

Thank you so much for being on this journey with me.  This journey of healing, awareness, responsibility, and communion on this planet.

And thank you for celebrating my birthday with me in this way!!!  Check out some poems/writings on IG from this week HERE.

** Top photo of me by Blood Bone and Honey and art by Dominoe Farris.

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After 15 years as a successful artist and filmmaker, Alexandra decided to totally shift gears and write her first book, F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself, Reclaim Your Voice, Stand in Your Power which soon became an Amazon best-seller and has been featured in the “Badass Women” issue of Instyle Magazine, Girl Boss, Vanity Fair, Playboy, The New York Times and more.

Alexandra currently offers online courses and mentorship aimed at assisting women step into their power and share their stories with the world. As you will hear, Alexandra is a living, breathing example of radical feminine spiritual and soulful living and helps show us how to create a life and path outside the status quo.

This is such a juicy episode as we talk about SO many amazing things. If you are a woman who desires to pursue a feminine spiritual path, discover the meaning of embodiment, enlightened sexuality and how to blend it with spirit than this one’s for you!

LISTEN HERE

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Wellness Official: In your book, I was surprised to find that, before you can actually “f*ck like a goddess,” there’s some deep personal healing work that needs to be done. Can you talk a little bit about those initial steps towards embracing your authentic self that lay the groundwork for inviting in more divine feminine energy?

Alexandra Roxo: In my book, I say f*cking like a goddess is making love to life and letting life make love to you. Instead of trying to control life or resisting its flow, choosing to open as if you and life are in ecstatic communion. So much of our human existence is in trying to manage our outcomes or fearing the “what ifs,” but when we instead choose to be in cahoots with life, we find ease on our path. That’s what I mean by f*cking like a goddess. It’s not literal — it’s poetic and metaphoric. That’s me for ya.

In order to really embrace your authentic self and invite in more of that divine feminine energy, you have to get rid of all the junk that doesn’t serve you. The old programming and beliefs that might’ve come from your parents, your culture or your religion.

The first step is to identify that they exist. For example, “Wow I still think I’m not lovable if I don’t wear a size four. Interesting. Okay cool, what else is stuck in me that I need to get rid of?”

Through that process, we’re able to take out the trash, let go of the baggage and make space for our own choices about who we are and what we believe. And that allows us to let in more divine feminine energy because we are becoming more nature. We’re letting ourselves bleed, we’re letting ourselves orgasm, we’re letting our bodies be as they are without trying to change and control them. That is divine feminine energy. It is nature in motion. It is the brilliance of color and sound, the way we dance, the way we move our hips, the noises we make. Allow all of that to come from the truth and from your heart and soul instead of your conditioning.

READ THE FULL INTERVIEW HERE

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RITUAL FOR YOU:

For this week’s ritual, I dare you to dance in the mirror in your sacred sexiest getup and lick at the mirror like a wild cat… yummm… light some candles first, watch whatever videos get you in the mood, or listen to this playlist… unleash your wildness in the safety of your home… and let that twinkle stay in your eye for as long as you can.

NEW MOON:

Tomorrow, a New Lunar Cycle begins!  Why do I pay attention to the moon?  And why have I for 20 years?  The Mystics across many cultures charted many things by the moon… I personally work with the lunar cycle to chart my emotional and spiritual path and transformation, instead of charting that by the sun.  I chart and track my *external* world with the sun.  I track my *internal* world with the moon.  It’s also related to my feminine self – the divine feminine, the underworld, dreams, the unconscious and an aspect of spiritual life that is non-linear and numinous.

How to celebrate and ritualize a new lunar cycle?

• Refresh your home altar or shrine or sacred space with flowers, water, a candle, and whatever feels symbolic of your internal world right now.
• Read/study about the moon in the tarot, in myth, fairy tale, depth psychology and across many earth-based spiritual traditions.
• Contemplate new intentions and create your own ritual monthly to do solo or with kids and family.
• One of the amazing women in my 2020 Mentorship group, INITIATION, made a rad lunar calendar for easy tracking.  Order here!
• And follow @radicalawakenings for monthly ritual ideas.

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From a more psycho-spiritual standpoint, this would be called “an upper-limit problem”, according to the Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.

It’s like when your container for joy or love is stretching and you can’t manage to hold any more love because it’s so uncomfortable, so you do something to spill the love, so you can feel relief.

In that relief you also get the kinky pleasure of going back to the pain that you know – the “I told you so/it was too good to be true” narrative that can feel like a cozy warm sweater.

From a more mystical/spiritual perspective, this can be looked at as the facing of a particular shadow that only arises when the container is deep enough and the moment is strong enough to hold it.

In allowing it to come forth, it has the opportunity to be held and seen.  It could be a very old wound that within the right circumstances, comes to light.

There are many ways to see and experience a rupture or moment of conflict in a relationship.

It’s too easy to AVOID these moments of discomfort by moving on quickly and not feeling the feelings, but in doing so, we equally avoid the growth.

When these old stories/wounds/shadows and limits arise in me, a part of me always feels like: “YEA!  I get to go home!!“

Meaning I get to reunite with an old me.  With my sweet tender wound.

We name our wounded selves in many of my retreats and programs and in private client sessions… and I’ve mentioned one of my personal faves is “Lana Del Roxo.”  She has big droopy eyes and long fake lashes that she bats with a lowered gaze.  She also has fangs and loves to read existential essays smoking tobacco by candlelight.  Alone.  Very alone.

There isn’t much space for her in the realm of sacred partnership, so like any old friend showing up unannounced – she catches me off guard when she comes…

We can choose to see our wounds and our internal narratives – the ways we shut down and disconnect from our selves and life – with as much creativity and play as we like.

We can also recognize the “upper-limit” we are hitting when they arrive.

Like: “Wow… am I allowed to be this happy?”

And from there we can expand our receiving and our ability to hold the deeper aspects of joy by simply feeling where we want to close or turn away or avoid or check out…

By feeling the pain.

Feeling the grief.

Feeling the anger.

And integrating and exalting these pieces of our old self – not getting rid of them, or killing them off – but giving them a safe space to play in the light.

And then taking a breath and meeting the new space that is created by that depth of feeling and integration.

And then there is more space to receive love, abundance, and all the juice.

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To be swept into your sky,
held there…

Home.

Dangling in the black.

An ecstatic pool of nothingness.

Where we are one.

When you come to me I feel feverish,
I feel whole.
I don’t understand it all,
I feel mad.

I will love you deeply.
I feel you in my Heart.

For The Beloved
First Draft 2017,
Amended in 2020.

RITUAL FOR YOU:

For this Full Moon, write your own poem of yearning.
Or read mine.
Choose your favorite song from this list,
breathe into your heart,
feel what is present or activated and express through sound and movement.
Simple.  Impactful.  Deep.

Rinse and repeat daily for deeper access to your Yearning Heart so you make a deeper well in there to receive more Love and more Life.

Much love from the Caribbean sea where I’m working on a project.  🙂  Stay tuned for when it debuts in March!  And look out for an announcement in the next few weeks about an in-person experience I am creating in May!  Mostly outdoors and safe for these times… coming soon from my Heart to Yours.

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This is my take on HOW TO BE PRESENT IN MY BODY VISCERALLY CONNECTED TO MY SENSES AND THE WORLD AROUND ME… AKA BECOME EMBODIED.

These are intense times.  I am practicing staying in my body and close to love like my sanity depends on it.

Embodiment is a huge part of my path… how to get out of the anxiety patterns.  The busy thoughts.  The over-thinking.  The “concepts” of spiritual ideas and doctrines that have yet to touch the living, the walking, the loving…

Breathe, feel, express…

These words are the words that I say again and again in every practice I lead.  And to myself all day.

Breathe.  Breathe into what is happening in the body, breathe big and full and bright.

Feel.  Feel what is happening there.  This can take awhile.  Numbness may be present.  You may feel stuck.  You may feel nothing.  Breathe and feel until you FEEL.

Express.  Sound it, write it, move it, express it through your whole being.  Mind, body, spirit.  Not using more mind concepts or thoughts, but in sounds or movements, color, art, beauty… but for me, mostly sound and movement!

This applies to many of life’s moments.

Have you ever been making love and you catch yourself thinking?

Perhaps about something happening that you wish was different?

“I wish they were touching me more like this…”

Or…

“Ugh… again?”

This is just one of life’s moments where the mind, body, and heart are at a disconnect.

And if you can remember to breathe, feel and express… then maybe you can come back into the body where the REAL TRANSFORMATION is awaiting you.

And breathe in that moment.  Feel what is there.

(Are you mad, sad, glad, scared, sexual?  Go with the basic feelings first because the more complex, the more heady you get!)

And then SOUND IT OUT and move it through the body…

Embodied spiritual practice can be confronting.

Embodied personal and spiritual transformation is terrifying.

It means not thinking about what you will do or change, but living and breathing it through your being, heart, eyes, legs, hands, mouth…

Is your jaw clenched?

Your body collapsed?

Your posture slumped?

Are you reaching for your phone?

Sweets?

In all those moments if you just stop and breathe, feel, and express… you may experience the transformation of one of your own shadow patterns taking you into a new place in your loving, your sexing, your connection to self…

It all happens in that one moment where we open or close because we are uncomfortable.

If you want to choose to open rather than close, just breathe, feel, and express…

Train yourself to do what they didn’t teach you in school when they said to sit still and be quiet and not feel and not speak up.

Train your inner soul rebel to remember who you really are.  To remember to feel.  To stand.  To shout.  To cry.  To share.  To express!

I am on a one-month couples’ retreat with my partner and in the depths of this practice DAILY.  We are transformational vessels and mirrors for each other and because I can remember those 3 words, I can find the courage to open to love and life when I want to turn away.

Love you all.  Big times.  Hold onto love.

Here are some guided practices for you and stay tuned for more as the year unfolds and I keep creating.

PLAYLIST:

Here’s a playlist for you – dance, moan, groan, breathe, feel, express!!

I’ll be back on IG soon.  I’m writing a new book proposal and creating a podcast and planning some new courses for the year – including an in-person EXPERIENCE – so stay tuned!

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On today’s episode I’m chatting with Alexandra Roxo, bestselling author, speaker and thought leader. This episode is so interesting because sex and religion are often seen as incompatible but Alexandra brings a totally fresh perspective, viewing sex as a form of spirituality itself! We discuss topics like the divine feminine energy and reclaiming your sexuality. Today’s episode is a must-listen!

Listen HERE.

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Happy New Moon!  As I wrote on IG yesterday, it’s our monthly reminder and chance to dive inside, under the surface and into the depths… 

I am so excited for all of our new members we welcomed into our yearly community of depth and sacred space yesterday at our New Moon Ritual – where we gather monthly to practice embodiment and getting back in tune with the wisdom of our own hearts.  It was our first gathering of the year and it was deep and lovely and yummy!

It is our pleasure to welcome those who feel called into this work.  AND I know that there are so many who feel the heart pull to begin to practice this in community, but are unable to make the financial commitment right now.

SO I am so so overjoyed to announce our new Radical Awakenings scholarship initiative for 2021!

It all started when one of our original members, Caroline, reached out and said she wanted to sponsor a woman for 2021.  She mentioned that perhaps she could inspire others who had the financial means to step up and share and sponsor a woman.

Because in these times, the isolation, anxiety, depression, and fear that we’re experiencing as humans has become way more prevalent.  According to research discussed in Psychology Today, depression is “the second leading cause of death in the U.S. for ages 10-34, and the fourth leading cause for ages 35-54.”  It is also shown that women have almost double the rate of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) than men, and are more at risk for chronic PTSD.

Our spiritual, emotional, and mental health are so incredibly important, as is getting into our bodies.  With our in-person retreats and ways of gathering currently gone, these online rituals and sacred spaces are really important to many of us.

The work that we do together in this community, and the tools we utilize, have been used throughout history – across cultures, and time – to reduce stress, reduce anxiety and depression, and can help to relax our nervous systems.

In this group, we work together in community to learn how to be our own healers, self-transform, love ourselves, and be of service to the world, even amidst the chaos.

And as we know so many people have lost their jobs this past year and are in financial distress, we want to provide opportunities where we can.  And so, for every scholarship that we are able to grant through collecting funds – we will match it!!!

We are taking donations of all amounts and we are collecting donations until Wednesday 1/27 – right up until the Full Moon!

If you have the means to sponsor a woman on her spiritual path, there are two steps below to help us provide opportunity – both of which together will take less than 5 minutes total.

And I wanted you to hear from Caroline on what called in her heart to start this initiative:

“Last year was incredibly intense and heart-wrenching.  It felt like we were all sent to our rooms by the Sky Daddy (God(dess)/universe/source/whatever you call it), while the shadows of the collective and the individual bubbled to the surface.  I spent most of the lockdown in my studio apartment in NYC alone.

2020 was like a yearlong intensive karma yoga retreat none of us consciously signed up for… but it comforts me to think our soul contracts say otherwise.

Although 2020 was “socially” distanced, my practice and my heart were so deeply connected in the Radical Awakenings virtual community.  I joined the Radical Awakenings community in 2020 as part of the INITIATION program after the closing of my 1:1 coaching container with Alexandra in 2019.

The illusions and the old ways of being were crumbling and there was no more hiding.  Participating in INITIATION invited me into the space of contemplation about the gifts and resources I have to offer to the world.  Walking on this path as a fiercely embodied heart-centered being, the biggest questions that came up for me were: “how can I serve the communities I call home and reach the ones that are underserved?  Is there something I can give and where do I have more than enough?”

2020 ignited a call within to shift some of my monetary contributions closer to “home”, and to support radical spaces away from the centrally funded patriarchal communities for healing.

I know many of you, like myself, have been touched so deeply by Alexandra’s work – including embodiment practices, our gatherings, her book, workshops/retreats, epic shares on Instagram/email, etc.  As I clicked the button to join Radical Awakenings for 2021, I felt that “hell yes” in my heart.  At the same time, I felt deep sadness for the women who do not have the financial means to invest in themselves the way I have been fortunate to do so these past few years.  The barriers to access spiritual and healing communities are something I don’t think we speak about enough.

And there came the calling – to bridge the gap between women experiencing financial hardship and this community that I call home.  I want to invest in other women and made my offer to sponsor another woman’s year in the Radical Awakenings community.  If I existed, I knew there were other women out there that may have a little extra love to give. 

Deep connection and the embodied awakened woman is needed now more than ever.  Let’s invest in each other’s healing and growth.  Community funding by women for women.”

Thank you loves, for helping us offer community, ritual, and sacred space to women around the world who are experiencing a financial need right now.

There are two steps to donate:

1. FILL OUT OUR DONOR FORM HERE
2. SEND YOUR DONATION TO THE SCHOLARSHIP FUND HERE!

Over the last four years, we have been able to provide many, many scholarships to women in need who wanted to join and were called to do feminine spiritual and transformational work outside of the traditional therapeutic model and in a more self-guided and embodied way.  And this year, we want to continue that and be able to offer even more opportunities.

We are so thrilled Caroline felt the call to reach out!

** Once you submit a donation, Sabrina will send you a receipt by the end of January for your records.

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